Practicing NOT being perfect
Remember the saying "practice makes perfect"? As a former soccer athlete, I cannot tell you how many times I heard this phrase. Those of you who know me, or who are getting to know me through reading these blogs or following along this adventure know that I struggle with striving for perfection. It hasn't been until this year that I've realized how damaging practicing being perfect really is and what suffers because of it. Do you feel me? How many times have you allowed your desire to be perfect or perfect something slow you down or completely stop you from doing something? We all put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be the best at whatever we do. So much pressure that at some point we feel like we're going to explode. When I went to Hawaii to film Noelani Love, Kilty Inafuku and myself for my 6 week #surferstrong challenge with Swellness, I put A LOT of expectations on myself to produce the most "perfect" product I could. I had worked with lululemon to make the initial connection with my fellow ambassadors, Kilty and Noelani which made me even more afraid of failing them or letting them down. I caught myself in the "striving for perfection state" when I started getting mad or frustrated during my film segments. I was getting in my own head and self sabotaging to the point where I would quit in the middle of a segment and have to come back and re-shoot it the next day because it wasn't perfect enough. I started to move further and further from that flow state and losing the enjoyment of actually living my dream.
I am so grateful for the people in my life that catch me in these moments and bring me back to reality. My business partner Scott reminded me of that fact that I am filming everything on a freaking iPhone, with no previous experience in production or film, I'm doing this outdoors with almost no control over what sounds in places I've never been, with no control over the weather or the lighting. If we wanted to produce perfection and be like everybody else in this industry, we would be filming this in a studio... but that's not the point. With so much out of my control how can I expect to produce something perfect? Exactly, you don't. You shift your perspective on perfection from the unrealistic expectations you place on yourself to remembering the beauty of imperfection, the lessons you learn along the way by just simply doing something instead of trying to perfect it, which all then lead to you strive to improve next time but not have you strive to perfect something.
Of course there will always be room for improvements but don't lose sight of the wins that are happening right in front of you now. Let go of what could be better next time and just enjoy what you have already accomplished right now. I'm fucking living my dream, I am collaborating with the most inspiring people in the world, I'm creating a program that will impact the world. Is it perfect? No. Is that what the intention is, or the message I want to deliver, HELLS no. So I invite you to practice not being perfect with me and liberate yourself from the confines we have placed on ourselves.
If you're hungry for more lessons on the topic of perfection, we did an entire segment on this with Dr. Lindsay Sewall from Shift Psychological a few weeks ago in my online wellness program called The Practice with Swellness, and you can tune in for free. Click here to access the audio interview on perfection with Dr. Lindsay Sewall.
Mahalo and Aloha for tuning in this week, until next time!