Get your fill

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True fulfillment in life doesn't come from what we get, it's from what we give.....and remembering to give to ourselves. To all of the momma's out there, I'm sure you will relate to this post!

Some of the happiest moments in my entire life to date is being part of a breakthrough, watching a lightbulb go off, witnessing a moment of relief, feeling heard, and sharing a warm hug with someone who I just helped.

My life is incredibly full. As a result, I am incredibly fulfilled. All because you allow me in.

With gratitude today, I just want to say to each and everyone of you how appreciative I am of you. Without your openness and willingness to let me into your life I truly wouldn't be where I am today.

Today and for the last 4 years I wake up excited, happy and eager to conquer the day. Something I definitely didn't have even just a few years ago in 2014.

It was never a mystery in my mind as to "what I wanted to do when I grew up". I just simply wanted to help others. I guess it was never that black and white to my surprise. Going through a full degree and working as a counsellor in our justice system followed by a stint in corporate leadership development I couldn't have been in a worse mental state. What I couldn't figure out is why? I am living my "purpose" of helping others, why don't I feel happy, excited for fulfilled?

It wasn't until I recognized that everyday when I ran a bootcamp off the side of my desk before and after work, that those were the days I actually felt incredibly happy, excited and fulfilled.

My struggle was guilt and fear. The last thing I wanted was to disappoint my parents and "waste" an entire 4 years of my life, making my University education pretty much useless (so I thought!). I was scared of what people would think going from an educated, successful employee in my field to now just a "fitness instructor".

There came a day I needed to make a decision to let go of the guilt, the fear and the judgement. I realized my need to feel happy, excited and fulfilled trumped everything else I was letting block me. I deserved it and I was supported in this decision.

Now, years later here I am. Living my dream, connecting with amazing people like you, feeling free and incredibly full.

As givers, we need to remember the importance of giving back to ourselves. As as an empath, and someone who has a career in helping others, I need to remember how important it is to internally fill myself up. Recognizing that I shouldn't always seek my own fulfillment by external factors like helping others or surfing hahah! I have to consciously remember that we can only control what we can control. If I base my happiness and fulfillment on everyone else's success or living somewhere I can surf everyday, the two things that give me great joy.... I'll be in a dangerous place.

In the last 7 months I've been finding this "balance" of prioritizing myself first and setting up healthy boundaries so I can continue to serve others in the best way I can. As a result, I feel happier than I have in a long time and even have lost a few stubborn pounds (emotions do have weight).

Prioritizing myself has meant:

  • SLEEP- Consistently getting to bed within 15 minutes either way of 10:00 pm on weekdays
  • MENTAL HEALTH- Meditating for at least 5 minutes each day and journal about it once a week. The ocean and surfing brings me so much joy and living in the heart of a big city in the middle of Canada doesn't really allow me to connect with this big part of what brings me joy. So the next best thing aside from travelling is to visualize the best moments I've spent surfing or in the ocean at least once a day.
  • MOVE- Committing to some form of movement each day that actually gets me excited... if I don't want to do it then I'm doing the wrong thing (some days it's only a walk, some days it's a full 30 minute Practice)
  • CONNECT- Connecting to someone that fills me up in a meaningful and present conversation at least once a day without the distraction of a phone

Whether you are a giver or not, a mom or not, whoever you are I'd LOVE to hear about how you prioritize yourself and what's worked for you. Share your comments below!

Thanks for following along and allowing me to be part of your journey,

Mal